I'm desperate about 2 guys. Advices?

I (w, 19) have been with my friend (m, 21) for more than 1 year. In the beginning everything was great, I was totally in love (the first time I really fell in love, because I'm very hard on feelings), I could not even enjoy the holiday (which I had with my parents), because I missed him so much even though we had just come together. And now I find it almost "annoying". We see each other every day, he is also a really great guy and would do anything for me but somehow I do not remember exactly if I still really love him…

On the one hand that and on the other there's a buddy (m, 25) of my brother, who has twisted my head since I "got to know him". He is in the middle of life, likes to party, was once engaged, is now single again. You can tell the difference between him and my friend a lot (my friend never likes anything, he really enjoys playing the PlayStation or mobile games). The complete opposites.

Well, let me get to the point! We (my brother, my friend, the certain buddy and others) were on a kind of concert one Saturday, it was loud Musk, I was a driver and the boys had been drinking beer. At some point the music became too loud for me (I already had a whimpering in my ear) and then I went to the side and stood alone outside the dance floor. My friend danced and did not really get it that I was missing. And suddenly the buddy comes over to me, hugs me tightly and kisses me on the neck (right) …

And since that moment I can't think straight, I wonder all the time, what that means? Maybe it does not mean anything, since he drank too. Maybe he does not even know it anymore, even though he did not seem drunk. He used to annoy me a lot (worn against my will, which was really embarrassing to me in front of all the people, pelting me with kids shoes, etc.).

Oh, I do not know where my head is! You will not be able to help me, since that's my decision, in the end… But maybe some good advice on my relationship (whether one or the other)?

I could cry!

The question is: What are you looking for and what do you want? It would be conceivable

the man for life in everyday life
the experience of unrestrained sexual passion, insanity
the right man
Knowing who is right for you because you still have to try

Personally, I have the impression that you will not marry either of them. At 19, you do not have to commit yourself. And you also do not have to know what and exactly what type you need.

However, say yes to risk and pain. The second guy, who will hurt you and it ends in chaos… But that too will probably be experienced once, because the way there's sweet.

You want an advice? - Pay 100% for contraception!

The "younger" does not do as much as the "older" is also a bit strange. At his age you should not only sit at some games but also enjoy life even in a relationship feasible. Everyone has a different character and different interests, but I would not get along with your friend if he never really wants to do something.

If you talk about the relationship that will not be any good for long. Even if the other one is not interested in you, I would advise you not to stay with your friend. Sometimes you have to realize sooner or later that it does not work and does not last forever…

My advice is to talk to the other boy and I would end it with your friend. If you are already faced with the choice, it will no longer make sense to your friend.

I think it's positive that your partner did not respond to you. Still, his reaction is a bit strange. It would be interesting to know how you show your love.

It is so. A true relationship holds even if you see yourself every day by working together. While in other relationships, the air is out sometime. It gets boring and you want something new. Who tells you it's not the same with the buddy at some point?

You should consider what is currently bothering your partner (eg the few companies). Then you should try if it is possible to change that by planning things. If he refuses to join them, then consider if you could stay with him forever. For example, I was in this situation sometimes. Only I could solve it by my partner then very well participate in these activities.

If you realize that you can't do this forever, then talk to your partner about what bothers you. Normally, this then goes into it. But if it does not matter to your friend, then you should think of a separation.

Now to the buddy. It seems like he's attracted to you. You could try to get closer to him after the breakup when it comes to that. Otherwise, try to forget him. This should be possible as soon as you are happy with your partner or have solved the problems of your relationship.

In fact, I've already tried talking to him because he was just hanging in front of his cell phone when he was with me. He promised me to play less. It also worked out about 3-4 weeks but then it started again. I can try again but after this experience I do not know if that works

As I said. If talking does not make you think of a separation. As a last speech test just appeal that you think because of a separation and then put into action if nothing changes. He was at least warned and knows how serious the situation is.