How can one adjust with XBox Minecraft, that one can only join, if one says yes?

We play with three of us with great effort and just a friend of the host, he does not know well, gejoint, we did not notice. He then started to destroy everything and everything important, diamonds, Enderperlen somehow taken, until the hosts has noticed that and has taken the rights to do certain things - unfortunately too late.

Can one adjust somewhere, that if he plays and I want to join as example he gets a message "X would like to join - allow?"?

Just make a NEN command block that kills the whole time and if you want you can turn it off after Beliben