Father too strict?

I signed up here because I think the site is really cool. So my problem is. I don't know if my parents (especially my father) are too strict and if I should defend myself how. I'm 15. For example, I have to show homework every day. If I screw up a job, for example, then he gives me a really long house arrest and so on, e.g. 2 weeks with ne 4-

I'm only allowed out until 6.30 p.m. During the week and if I come, for example, 15 minutes late, I'm not allowed out the next day.

and to contradict him doesn't work at all then he yells at me mega so that I don't dare to say anything anymore., takes away ps4 or mobile phone.

It doesn't happen that often that it's a problem, but I'm also always afraid that someone will slap my face or use a belt or something 🤣 does anyone have any tips on what to do?

Is exaggerated. House arrest doesn't give you better grades. On the contrary. The pressure increases and you write even worse grades. At 15 it shouldn't be a problem to stay away until 8 p.m.

But showing homework is fine

The first part is uncomfortable, but its right as a legal guardian. The most you can do is sit down with him and your mother and try to talk sensibly.

With the last part (violence), you can call the police or the youth welfare office. The former would make it clear that there's a crime in the room and draw the consequences. The latter would then send a family helper to sit down with you and talk about it or decide whether your father is a threat to you.

Digga what are you talking about his father who can hit par times what cops you h **

What's the matter with you here? Selam as a name but have such an attitude and, above all, offend people

Wow. Level at the level of the ditch. And hitting someone is illegal in Germany.

Ah my parents were like that for a while, if not more strict. In elementary school I even had to practice tying shoes for 15 minutes every day and got in trouble if I didn't lol. Up to the 8th grade I always got in a lot of trouble with bad grades, got a thousand reproaches thrown into the pot, took the cell phone away, etc. But I also have to say that I learned relatively little back then. This ranting and being strict didn't do much good, of course, except to ruin the mood, but I don't hold it against them and I didn't have it back then, because they only mean it well and are a bit frustrated. When I got a letter about my interim report that my grades were too bad and they recommended me to switch to secondary school, a little light went on for me and I started learning and in the years that followed I was always best in class. When it happened that I got a bad grade, they reacted very calmly because they knew that they could trust me. The best you can do is show your dad that he can trust you. If he trusted you, he wouldn't take such action. You have to show a sense of responsibility and your own discipline, then he will see that he no longer needs to be so strict because you have your life under control. Wish you the best of luck!

Thank you ❤️ is good to hear that it is the same with others. It's just that nobody is so strict with my friends from the parents and my friends are already wondering why I'm allowed less things than they are. But ok, it can also be the age that he thinks, would rather have a hard upbringing than, for example, start taking drugs or something.