I'm totally desperate, I'm sorry that I've written so much.
I'm 22 years old and my friend is 25.
Well me and my boyfriend were together for 2 months then I got pregnant he really wanted me to keep it. I didn't really know if I would keep it, but at some point I thought that he would stay with me because he talked our situation so well and talked very happily about family planning then we often argued because he didn't go to work and only played with the PlayStation then at some point he had a job because he was quit then we had an argument again. Because he hasn't looked for anything for a long time. Then I also got maternity leave. Paid 600 euro for our engagement party. He then canceled it because he said he had no money and he only had to spend 30 euro on flowers. Then I took care of an apartment I also took care of it the next day he canceled it. Then I took care of the registry office and sent them off. And now he left me 2 weeks before the deadline. And all of that via WhatsApp I then went to his door and waited 1 hour before he came to tell me that in my face. He told me that he didn't want anything to do with me and the child from one day to the next. My question now would be should I let him know that she was born or would you leave it?
I would let him be obviously an awful if he wants to know something about the child he should ask
So that he does not want to have anything to do with you he can freely decide, but he is the father of the little princess and he can't avoid that.
If he is too immature to take responsibility for his child and has communicated this so clearly, I would not inform him about this at this point because stress is to be expected and you should first concentrate on yourself and your child.
Obviously, he is neither a reliable partner for you nor a suitable father for your child. I'm very sorry to have to tell you. You should focus on yourself and your baby now. With him there would only be stress. I wouldn't contact him at all. But you have to report it to get alimony.
All the best!
Not the wording I would have used, but you get to the point.
Thanks
You should inform him that he will have to pay child support for the child. Since he will not do this voluntarily, contact the youth welfare office in your place of residence.
He didn't deserve it, but if I were you I would show greatness (again) and just let him know. The chances are probably not exactly slim that he will continue to show his apparently very cowardly and completely immature side and no longer recognize you or his child - but at least you tried everything.
Just think about your child, who sooner or later will surely ask about their father. If I were you, I wouldn't want to say "Well, I didn't tell him about your birth". Of course, his disinterest is not to be attributed to you, but to the child it could then seem as if you were at least partly to blame for the absence and (perhaps) lack of contact with the father. Or simply producer, the guy doesn't show any father qualities.
Even if mom told me about him I should let me know, should I do that? She never asked anything until 2 days ago, but then when she found out that he simply finished everything
Then I would let her know she obviously asked for it
