Since I have had a lot less social contact on ps4?

Here's a short story: I've always wanted a playstation and got one when I was 13 during the summer vacation. Then I spent the whole summer holidays with the playstation and also gambled a lot afterwards. It's been about 1.5 years now. Before I had one, I was always super sociable (is that how you say it?) And always really enjoyed being outside and all that. Now that I've got the plays, I'm mega shy, hardly go out and when someone speaks to me, I never know what to say. I always try to evade somehow. And that's a HUGE problem! I actually really like to hang out with other people and so whenever I see others I'm always nervous and don't know what to say / do…

It really sucks for me and so because I have the feeling that my friends are turning away from me a bit because even when I see them I don't know what to say! And when I try to get to know other people I notice how they think "what kind of a freak is that" or something because I either say strange things or am completely silent. It's also extremely difficult to look into other eyes.

A little reminder: everything since I've had a playstation!

Tips are welcome 😬🙂

I would recommend you to play less Playstation: // I play myself, but not all the time.

I know but somehow I have no other occupation…

Simple solution: sell your PS4. You have already recognized the problem yourself.

Just saying "hello, how are you" is not an option? Or make an appointment (okay, currently difficult)? Also talk to friends about the games you play on the Playstation?

It is extremely important that you reflect on these changes. Social interaction is vital, health, success at work.

Ask your parents to hide the Playstation or sell it (even better as you get direct value) and put up with the boredom. Then you will find your way back to the previous state step by step. All the best.

I basically think it's a good idea. But what about the cell phone? Would you set a limit or how would you do that? I'm used to spending a lot of time with the playstation and would probably try to balance it out with my mobile phone, right? Or do you mean that it will take care of itself?

You write good sentences and make an intelligent impression on me. So now I'm going to explain something chemical. In your reward center in the brain there's a messenger substance called dopamine which is responsible for motivating us to do everything in life that keeps us alive. Unfortunately, it also motivates negative goals. This includes taking drugs and overusing media, computer games, etc. All of these activities activate dopamine in your brain. The cell phone is no different from the Playstation. In this respect, I recommend that you do without digital technology completely. With it you regenerate your dopamine balance, so that self-confidence grows and you feel more joy again in things that are currently difficult or stressful for you, for example approaching people, reading, learning, filling boredom with imagination. Take control of your life again, it will pay off, but the dopamine withdrawal won't feel good in the beginning, but after that you will be better than ever. If you want to get off to a full start, you also avoid sugar and fast food. These are just as much dopamine robbers as games. LG and Power for the 'withdrawal' :)

Thanks for the quick answer 😀 I would like to do without digital technology completely, but I would not really like to do without my cell phone, as I would then hardly have the opportunity to communicate with my friends. Of course you can make phone calls and all that, but when you need something quickly, that's practical. In the beginning I would like to set myself a limit of maybe 4 hours, because I sit at the screen for a really long time and I'm used to being in front of the screen for a long time. Do you think the limit makes sense?