Is distrust a sign of weakness?

I decided to reduce my circle of friends:

I feel like I give a lot more than I get back. However, I came across the quote: "http://zitate.net/misstrauen-zitate is an http://zitate.net/zeichen-zitate of http://zitate.net/schw%c3%a4che-zitate".

My "friends" don't ask me how I'm doing, I'm practically a lonely wolf that somehow survives.

Had something with a woman who streams on Twitch, but back and forth we went our separate ways. When we got in touch again there was the same game where she can never say directly if she has a problem with me. Didn't watch them anymore because I don't like their content anymore and have other interests. I know she scares her and she also told me that she has paranoia. But now many people have told me that I'm too nice, too altruistic and should look more at myself.

I'm not sure of the whole thing anymore.

I have the feeling that I'm only surrounded by ungrateful people and am only now aware of this at 28. On the other hand, I don't want to solve problems with hate.

I'm extremely divided and confused inside. What exactly is the right step?

I want to give you a very deep, spiritual answer:

Love there. Love doesn't question. Love doesn't distrust.

In that sense, you live correctly by giving. You love your fellow human beings.

But love also refers to your own person = self-love.

This does not mean selfishness, but that you also give yourself, that you are there for yourself and for your own satisfaction.

In this respect, you are right if you detach yourself from people who are not good for you.

Give but don't forget about it.

All the best.

It has nothing to do with hate if you say goodbye to friends who do not behave like friends and take advantage of you.

You can give a lot and do something for others. Especially in a friendship. But the weighing pans must not be full on one side and empty on the other side. If no one is there for you, if you ever need someone, then you can do without these friendships.

Surely it can happen that friends don't have time. But if it happens almost always and the friends have no interest in you, then the friendship makes no sense. A friendship, like a relationship, should be an enrichment for BOTH.

In my eyes, that has nothing to do with distrust. You may and must also think of YOU. The others don't seem to do it, so you have to do it. And nowhere is it written that you have to be exploited.

In a nutshell: It all depends on whether the suspicion is justified or not.

You have to earn trust.