My girlfriend broke up with me last week on Wednesday. It wasn't going well for a while. We often quarreled about stupid things like corona or something. I noticed that it was getting colder and colder. Then I asked her about it. That was 3 weeks ago. She told me that she was disappointed and hurt because she invested so much in the relationship and never got anything from me. She was always there for me. Always wanted out but I always put it off in the evening or postponed it to another day. We then wrote less about the day because I was either on Youtube or played on the playstation. She said to me that from the beginning she always hoped that I would fall in love with her as much as she did, that I would finally try harder. She said a few points that got me down to earth. Because she is right. I've often made stupid sayings. Like, for example, in front of my freubddne yes I already eat her number and so and she was there next to me. But I never meant it that was always fun but it was wrong to say something like that. It took her a lot. Over time, the disappointments piled up until she couldn't do any more and we had the conversation. I don't know why I was with her. I mean, I loved her from the start and I really meant it. But I could never really show that. She said to me she doesn't want to be so cold to me but she can't get the disappointments back again and again… After the conversation I said of course I'm sorry and I'm better for her. That went ann 2 weeks I wanted to meet me every day wrote a lot. But she stayed cold and everything. There had been no kissing and closer body contact for a long time because she was afraid of getting corona because her father was previously ill and Grandma Grandpa also lived with her… After 2 weeks after the conversation, her decision came to an end. It can no longer. It has no strength or nerves. She still has feelings but not as much as at the beginning. I had only accepted it that way. I wrote to her again on Sunday. That I saw my mistakes. And do everything for them. But she said no and said that she hardly has any feelings anymore that the disappointments simply left.
I only accepted that and deleted everything because I saw no way out. Now I wrote to her yesterday and asked for a meeting because I really want to have her again. I really love her very much. At first she was upset about why ivvh delete everything and just let me know when I feel like it… But then she agreed to a meeting as soon as she had time. But even with the words in the situation nothing will change.
You should find out if she may have overreacted.
However, it can only work if you are willing to adapt your behavior in the long term.
This is the big difficulty because everyone tends to fall into behavioral patterns.
The difficulty on the other hand is very common to take others as they are or to leave them.
Do you think something will change? The way you describe it really has no future. You were yourself - you can't be blamed for that. But the way you are, you don't live up to your expectations. So you'd have to bend for them. That has no future! You don't want to go through with it and you shouldn't. No matter whether I can understand them (because I do) or not. You are you Stay that way if you like yourself.
Tell her how you feel and how much you love her, just as you wrote it here. To be honest, it sounds like she's almost over you and you shouldn't force anything if she finally came out of pity or guilt with you zsm, neither of you would be happy.
You can meet her and try it, but if she says to you that nothing will change in the situation, she means it.
Nobody wants an annoying ex-partner.
If you want to get better then don't just tell her but prove it by doing it.
