Girlfriend does not accept gambling?

There's a following problem…

As you can read above, it's about my girlfriend not wanting to accept that I gamble. Even I don't always have time for it every day, because I'm either just at work or my girlfriend comes to me and I'm not sitting there at the console, even when she is at home she shoots me with calls that I don't have the time can take to gamble. For 4 years I have had colleagues with whom I gamble, and I often find it difficult not to get online because either my girlfriend or work calls. Today it is about that I had online lessons until 16:30 she wanted to see me afterwards. I told her clearly that I had lessons until 4:30 p.m. And then at 4:50 pm I got a call, why I can't take the time to tell her that I'm out, then I said that she can write to me as well and that I'm not the only one. Then she yells at me on the phone that I wanted to take the time to look at something in the Xbox store. We've been together for almost 3 years, and we're doing everything almost wrong as she always nags me.

do you have any tips?

or the same experience?

I think your girlfriend doesn't take you seriously as a man. Really. A feminine woman who hugs the man and takes him seriously and respects him in his male role, she does not behave that way with her man in a 3 year old relationship. I'm very sorry for you. You can only work on yourself. Body, career, mind. Then the necessary respect comes from those around you. Unfortunately, that's how it is as a young man.

And for gambling, completely legitimate! You have your own free time and hobbies and friends.

Yes, I agree with you because she often becomes disrespectful and has to humiliate me with her bad mood. She is also often very feminist and takes everything seriously and doesn't understand humor.

I don't know exactly how you can solve this myself. Maybe an in-depth conversation about where you can make her realize that quitting is not an option.

Apart from that: don't let ANYONE do you! Say which hobbies / passions you can and can't pursue.

I have no girlfriend. If I had one and it bothered you so much, then maybe I would cut down the gambling a little. But if she stubbornly insists that I shouldn't gamble anymore, then she has no business in my life…

Yes, something like that can happen when people who are immature and unreflective come into a relationship. Then someone is a loving, innocent nice person and is taken advantage of because that person is emotionally dependent on the other person. Often this also reflects the relationship with one's own parents. But it is also logical: nowhere else does a person get what is positive in the relationship. It is not easy to be a man. It starts with dealing with your body and the way you function mentally as a man. You have to find yourself as a man.

How often and how long do you see each other?

Almost every other day

What if instead of gambling you went to football 3 times a week? Or to the gym? Or jogging? Would that be better then?

WHAT you do in your free time is your beer. You just have to determine how much time is okay. Everyone needs that. Seeing every other day is definitely ok.

Does she have any hobbies?