Does anyone have tips or go through the same thing?

So in a nutshell my friend gambles continuously.

on weekdays he comes from work and the first thing that is done is the Xbox goes on and then I don't see him for the rest of the day and that's how it works every day.

on the weekend, however, even if I'm still in bed, the Xbox goes on early in the morning and it is not turned off before 00:00. Which means we don't do anything anymore at the beginning it wasn't like that and I feel like I have to fight for his attention

but now we're expecting a child and I was hoping that I might get a little attention or that he would just be with me. I have also spoken to him several times, but nothing has changed

i love him so much and i don't think about leaving him but i don't want to argue with him every day just because of the gamble.

If he takes care of his XBox instead of you despite pregnancy, it would be best to separate.
He probably has no interest in you or your child. A good partner and father looks different.

He gambles from morning to night - and you got pregnant anyway? Is he the father? ^^

So basically: Talking is the key.

Make up with him that he can play in peace 2-3 days a week, but at least one day a week there's no thing.

Or practice his games and make sure, if he plays multiplayer, that you flatten him every time… ^^

Why does everyone always say "Yes, break up if something doesn't suit you in the relationship"? Talking is not an option for you?

Yes he is, the constant gamble only started later and that was exactly what I wanted to make out with him because he said that he only gambles when he wants to and is not bound to anything, so I didn't get anywhere but I can't get it clearly being alone all the time

Don't want to be tied to anything - something like work and responsibility, for example?

She has already spoken to him about it. He doesn't seem willing to change his behavior.

Guess:

either playing is just his passion and he still wants to quickly enjoy the uncomplicated time before your baby comes and turns both of their lives upside down - or he is perplexed or afraid and flees into games as deeply as he can because he believes not being up to the future. In both cases there may also be an addiction.

Maybe it can help if you tell him that everything is going to be half as wild and you always find compromises. Whatever he does, he should involve his family, then it works.

And? Children are never willing to tidy up their room. Would you throw them out too?

Why did you assume he would change with a child? I hope you didn't want to get pregnant because of that 😅

I can understand him after work. Gambling helps to relax. But I don't think it's good that he plays all day at the weekend. Have you already made suggestions for what you could do? Did he then reject them or does he at least do something with you? I would talk to him again about this burdening you and so you see no sense in a relationship if you do nothing together. Also ask him how he imagines that with the child.

It's not about children, it's about a couple living together, having a child and the partner not interested in the partner, the relationship or HIS child.

You got it right. So separating is not an option. It must be clear to him that he has responsibility.

No that was not the reason for child XD

Mouth yes I have and he meant no buck and since we live in the city it is difficult for me to just go out

Hm ok that's very negative. My friend also likes to gamble, for example. But as soon as I make a suggestion or do something with it, it goes away from the PC.

Seems like gambling has priority for him. And what did he mean when asked how he imagined the child? And what sense does he see in a relationship in which you do nothing? If he doesn't want to change anything, I would seriously consider whether you want to raise a child with him. Does he at least like to kiss you and cuddle with you in the evening?

Doesn't seem to work.

What's wrong with you

Why do you say separate or he is addicted to gambling? Do you know him? You know what's going on in his head. Did you talk to him personally and did he tell you about his fears and worries? I do not think so!

And with the action clear the Xbox time away, you achieve exactly the opposite of what you want.

You can only try to talk to him about it, but instead of telling him about your idea of how you would like it all, ask him about his fears and worries, because degrees for a young man can make the first child and everything that goes with it very scary and be overwhelming. It can really be that he simply takes refuge in the game because he knows how everything is going there he is in control. The whole expectations of famiele and the other relatives (maybe the topic of wedding in the room). He is probably afraid that he can handle all of this and that he can take good care of you. Unfortunately, it happens very quickly that the man puts a lot of pressure on himself and has self-doubt. You have to talk to each other and talk more, preferably in good weather If you go for a walk then nothing will distract you electronically. You can do it.

He said it wasn't because of the child because he was looking forward to it but I will keep trying to talk to him

Yes, this is definitely the way to go, including choosing one (clothes toys, etc.). Let him decide something, everything will be fine