Friend makes me cry, he does not care?

I'm 18 and have been with my friend (20) for 1 year.

He is a total dear. However, I'm very sensitive and take something quickly to heart and he knows that too.

He often does not have time for me, since he absolutely has to play PlayStation and then does not answer for a long time. He also celebrates more often and tells me shortly before, although I already thought that he sleeps with me that day. He always decides that very spontaneously. At the parties he does not (I think) want me to be there, at least he does not take me with them, although I ask. If I then talk to him and get well-eyed, he says something like "just cry" and then turns away. He just does not care, which only makes me cry more.

He also often says that I stink. He says it's fun (I shower every day) but it still makes me totally exhausted.

Also, you can't really plan with him when we do something together, because he does not know in advance if he feels like it at all. I think that's a pity. Such planning is no problem with his friends.

What should I do?

Normally, I always say that partnership takes precedence and gives the advice to seek solutions for the partnership.

But your friend seems to be an egomaniac who actually has little to no interest in you. You seem to be comfortable when he has nothing better to do.

I would advise to end it all and look for someone who is worth a relationship, who respects, respects and shares his interests with you. No one has to be constantly offended and ignored.

Especially since one's own psyche is not doing well and in the long run it can actually be seriously damaged.

You can just tell him that and if he hurts you. Maybe not with tears, but with words.

He may be pretty nice, but he is not very sensitive. Otherwise he might explain why he needs his space (Playstation / Friends / Parties).

For a while, however, I feel he does not respond to you very much, that he puts his own interests before yours, and that he denies you a bit because you rarely perform together as a couple.

It may be that you also cling a bit; This can be assumed from your story but at best.

But if you feel he only comes to you when he's not doing anything better, then you should consider if this is a relationship that you would like.

How exactly do you mean with the brackets? For me he is the most important person in my life

Have you been in a relationship for 1 year? - Class! I'm happy for you. But if I asked now how hot the flame of love, after all this mess, what would you tell me? Is the flame of love still noticeable? Has not the plant of love been long since dried off by its behavior and behavior that you can't cope with, or when did it last pour it to keep this plant of love alive? Has he ever stoked the fire of your love, the flame of your love?

He knows that you are sensitive. Although he knows that you take something fast personally. Does he take that into account? Do you feel understood by him in the point?

I hate spontaneous decisions. For me, the topic would have been eaten long ago!

He sees that you get glazing eyes and with razor-sharp words stings then still on it? This is not worthy of a lover, that it is not worthy of a best friend, that it is not worthy of a friend, that it is not worthy of acquaintance. That's not even worthy of your friend. That is not how it works. Actually, you should feel comfortable, he does not even seem to be able to make you happy. Sorry, that takes me right now and makes me really a bit grumpy. He does not seem to realize what he has about you. Make it clear to him, keep your distance, then maybe he knows what he misses and wonders what he could have done wrong, but I think it will change nothing permanently. In the short term, after the thunder and lightning, it becomes clear for a moment, but at some point he will certainly fall back into his patterns of behavior. You can't change it. He has to change himself. At some point, these storm clouds will open again and it will crash.

"Yeah, just howl", I can't figure out, how can you be like that? But what should you do if you still love him? What would you like to do? Imagine it would work, what would you like to do? What would you like to tell him? I understand you completely, that hurts a lot. He says that you stink? Did you ever say that you do not want to hear that? You are not the weak girl.

Yes, you do not need to justify yourself by taking a shower every day. You should work on you! Do not take a leaf in front of your mouth. But be friendly. I would not have tolerated all that and said, "As bad as your behavior stinks, it can't be!", I would have given it back directly. Why should you consider it, it shoots at you. And that as a friend. You can also say it in a friendly way and wrap it in an I - message: "When I hear from you that I'm stinking, I feel hurt by you, though I'm very anxious to please you, I know you might not Serious, but I take it seriously anyway, I would like a little more restraint from you (the person I say that I love them), as that takes me a lot, I do not understand this kind of fun and I would like you ask me to refrain from doing this in my presence. "That would also be a possibility, although I only see it backfire, he is assi on it and he does not even seem to notice.

I also have to say quite honestly how @Alterweise already said if he is still what you have imagined. He takes out too much for me.

Now you have to know what you want our opinions you know. In the storm, with or without umbrella, or go in the opposite direction and separate you. I have to tell you so hard, but probably that's the simple language he still understands. Does he not care for that? Is not he trying to stop it? If he no longer tries to fight you, then it's out. Then you completely do not care if he does not even realize his mistake. Then he does not deserve such a tender and fragile girl, then he does not understand you. His reaction counts. Does not he care? Were you not worth it?

I would do that, do not let that happen!

Yes, I think that means "age wise" with it. Maybe a little too important. That you cling to him. Do not let go, do not give him the space he needs, do you understand? "I love him, I hug you and I'll never let you go, you have to take me everywhere, because you're the most important person of my life, do not go without me," that's clinging! That could be an indication of his behavior, but I find that a bit far-fetched. I think clearly, your relationship has reached everyday life. Is nothing special anymore, the glasses of pink glasses have long been broken and he now tries more of his interests, which he has given up for you to perform. I can't imagine that was always the case. Not even at the beginning. I think just the beginning, was the best time.

@Alternatively, if you disagree, I did not reflect that as you meant, may you add something!