I got a new TV today. I have 2 rooms. 1 bedroom and a gaming room. Now I wanted to put my ps4 in my bedroom because the new TV (smart TV) is there. Now my mother said she was moaning why I wanted to do that. What else am I supposed to do. I'm 18 years old and unfairly I have to go to bed at 10 p.m. (it slowly annoys me when I always have to tell my friends that I have to turn off when it is 10 p.m. I'm not allowed to decide for myself when to go to sleep (I understand that I need my sleep, but I no longer feel like a toddler to go to sleep at 10 p.m.). My parents think I gamble too much. (Unfortunately I don't have that many friends with whom I can meet. I only have one with whom I meet every now and then) my parents just don't allow me anything. I really want to decide for myself when I go to sleep and where I have my consoles (also complain that I should become independent). Even if my ps4 is in my bedroom, I turn it off at 10 p.m. What's so hard to understand
If you continue like this, your parents forbid you to do this or that even at the age of 30.
In the worst case, they can kick you out, or it will be a few days of thick air for your spirits to calm down.
You have the luxury of 2 rooms. Personally, I would have placed the TV in the gamer room. But don't know the layout, the space and the connections.
Even though I think that some things should be discussed, there are things that are simply implemented.
The teenager who lived in my house had moved his PS4 from the living room to his bedroom without notice. We don't have the luxury of a multi-purpose room. I noticed, I asked why, the reason was understandable to me, the issue was done.
There are parents and there are parents, you are not born with a parents' driver's license. Your parents have not yet learned that you can only learn to be independent through your own experience and the mistakes that result from it.
You have not yet shown your parents behavior that enables you to make independent decisions.
You have to start cutting the cord by changing your behavior. You should simply implement things and try to reduce the resulting anger by explaining your motives. "You wanted me to become self-employed. I have made a decision, respect my decision. Nobody is at a disadvantage."
I can't say anything about your gaming time, the time limit for me is only during school time. During holidays and weekends: if I hear the teamspeak or music in my (directly adjacent) bedroom, the security for the youth room is switched off without further notice.
You can't force friends, you have to work for them. One needs some, the other doesn't.
And to understand, there's nothing here at all. Compliance with existing rules is based on trust.
