So first I know that I'm being treated unfairly. I accepted that for the most part, but every now and then there are situations where things somehow get out of hand again. And as selfish as it would sound now I just want a confirmation that it's true, because nobody listens to me, that's why I sometimes think that I'm just imagining it. Here is a scenario:
I 14
My brother (let's call him Max) 12
So I want a Nintendo switch light. (The single thing because I will never / want to play on TV) So it costs 200 euro on amazon, I would pay me 100% myself. My parents would do that immediately and are okay with it. However, I would like to share it with my brother. Actually, I would actually do it, but 1. If I would buy the switch 100% myself 2. My brother is completely addicted to games and has also broken several tablets and several cell phones from attacks of anger (so of course I'm afraid that he would do it at switch search / since he is so addicted to games he is on the ps4 all the time until my parents finally get him away then he goes to his mobile phone / tablet or to his xbox, to be honest, I don't mind that he just goes to the switch without it to ask how he is looking for the ps4 in the living room) 3. The NRM1. Reason wit both had a nintendo his broke after the 1st year due to an angry attack (he was probably only 7) when he asked my mother if she would buy a new one, she declined from 2 weeks later mine disappeared (I'm messy because of that My parents thought, of course, I would have messed it up) Of course I didn't get a new one, which I understand completely but we found mine behind his closet 1 year after his broke and mine disappeared. He got 0.0 even though he admitted that he threw him behind because he was jealous that I still had one. The sight of my broken DS suddenly made him want a new one, so 3 years later my brother got a new one for his birthday (ps he is broken again now) I really want to buy MY Nintendo switch light, but I want to make my parents understand that first I want it for myself But when I say that comes something like: You are siblings, share it, don't be so selfish Please tell me that I'm right or whether I'm right because I'm slowly really not anymore Know and please give me suggestions how I can talk to my parents about the fact that when I come with the 3 reasons they just roll their eyes
Thanks for any helpful answer ♡
Ps. Please excuse the auto-correction, I just wanted to write everything from the soul and didn't pay attention to it + English auto-correction
I think your reasons are understandable. Perhaps in addition to the Switch, you can buy a safe in which you can lock the Switch so that your brother doesn't get to it.
Your brother's behavior sounds pretty worrying, by the way. Have you ever thought about therapy for him? It could happen that at some point he will no longer vent his anger on objects, but on people. This should be counteracted as early as possible.
I personally asked my parents that he should go to therapy. However, my parents do not consider this to be necessary and say: Oh, a 2-week tablet ban helps.
Maybe yes, but they never prohibit it
Thanks for your answer regarding the safe but of course my parents will know when I have the switch and they insist that I share it.
Ps. My brother has ever been violent to me like my mother
Your reasons are absolutely understandable and I can understand you completely. I also have to share my Switch with my younger siblings. With one of them I'm afraid that he could break it, so we have the compromise that he can only use the Switch in the dock and has his own Joy from. You can't do that with a Switch Lite, but how about if you make it up that you and your brother share the price of a normal Switch and he can only use it in the dock?
If I would do it immediately, however, my brother is on his account at 0 euro, so actually at 0 euro he would be i'm - but of course my parents don't want that. He recently had to buy a cell phone because he broke his old one (because the Wi-Fi didn't work 😀) and he destroyed a door. It cost 150 euro again / we have only been getting "only" 10 euro a month earlier for a short time Of course, we both don't have that much money (we don't need to search for it) but the big switch is omitted (thank you for your answer ♡)
I can absolutely understand you. But somehow I also wonder why your parents don't put a stop to this and take away the consoles and tablets completely when he's on it 😳
At the latest when the child willfully breaks things, you should do something.
I find it difficult to give good advice here (except to buy a safe directly as Ha100 wrote ^^). If you buy the Switch with your money, it is also your property that you can decide about. Did you tell them that directly and also voiced your concerns about sharing?
As I said, yes, but my parents can't / don't want to understand it. Despite Corona, my father doesn't go to work because he is in the field, which means that my brother is alone with me and my mother for the rest of the day. When my mum takes away the tablet or mobile phone, he writes around, lashes out and in the worst case breaks things like the door. My parents probably don't want to do that to themselves. I have no idea what to do to be honest, if I can be honest I go broken in the family because that is not the only problem and the above is just a scenario anyway. I understand that you can't write a correct answer here, but I just wanted confirmation.
Unfortunately, I don't know a solution for the Switch either, but as far as your brother is concerned: Maybe you'll talk to a tutor at school. It's understandable that your parents might want to change matters, but they won't help him by ignoring his tantrums. On the contrary: when he is an adult and something of this kind happens, then he can be reported. You can tell them that too.
I wouldn't really want to be in such a mood either, but actually they should take action and endure it. I mean, what will become of him later if you can't get him off those things? The upbringing of others is none of my business but I would definitely visit a psychologist to address the addiction and, if necessary, use the pocket money to repair the things of the (at least my cousin is always threatened)
