Do you have secrets in your relationship that the other knows nothing about, or what do you think of secrets?

I've been in a relationship for 2 years and live in a house with my girlfriend. She is very hardworking, pays the rent, etc… For which I'm very grateful. However, I have had a functioning F + relationship with another girl from my town for 5 years. When my steady friend is on the night shift in the hospital, I drive to my F + friend about 3 times a month that evening. With her we watch films, play the Playstation, smoke joints and things like that… Of course we always have sex because it works very well between us. Just before my girlfriend comes home from the night shift, I quickly drive home freshly showered (so you don't smell anything) and get into bed so that my boyfriend doesn't notice anything about the evening. My girlfriend doesn't know about this F + relationship because I keep it a secret.

Do you have any secrets in your relationship, or what do you generally think of such little secrets about which the partner shouldn't know anything?

If you really love your partner, and you can clearly see that you don't love your girlfriend and should rather end it, then you have no secrets from each other. An I became a we.

Of course I love my girlfriend

You should trust each other and that means you shouldn't have any secrets either.

You probably feel like a pike in the carp pond, although this is not just a disturbed relationship of trust, because it means cheating and exploiting a situation that your partner does not deserve.

She pays the rent and you… Hopefully get the receipt for it quickly. Guys like you should only (be allowed to) enjoy their own freedom.

But I think something like you is bad 😤

You can have secrets that you don't tell anyone, it depends on how self-confident you are. With my first friend, I kept a secret for the first 6 months:

I like Serbia more than Croatia 🇷🇸🥺🇭🇷

I also have another secret with my 2 ex-friends. Don't reveal the whole relationship; Should be my wedding secret🤗😀☺️🤭

Everyone has secrets. When it comes to partnerships, I'm also in favor of openness and trust. When it comes to this partnership, e.g. When it comes to work, friends, or my very personal thoughts, my partner doesn't have to know everything either.

No. You don't know what real love is If you loved her, there would be only you and no one else. You would never want to hurt her by cheating on her. You would break up so she can be happy and find a partner who doesn't have someone else on the side

You "love" her like most couples do. But that's not real love.

Thanks for your words, I agree with you 100%. I really don't want to judge others, but his latest question really puzzled me and now I have ended up here. It's crazy if he's serious about it.