Is he doing too little for me?

I realize that in the last few weeks I have been quite unhappy in my relationship, which also varies a lot, you have to say. I suffer from a hysterical PS which means that I often feel very rejected and not important enough and need above average confirmation.
I'm together with my friend (27) for 1.5 years and often I think that he does enough for me, he writes me quite often news and we see each other about 5 times a week, where he always eigentliuch to me comes and picks up the ride (about 40km) and we're in constant contact.

But sometimes I miss something, he is often very childish, makes a lot of jokes and I have the feeling he never talks profoundly with me and never worries. I always want to talk, discuss and often have problems when something bothers me again.

Also I miss so little attention, sometimes flowers or something. He tells me from time to time: Oh darling, but you have really earned flowers again. Yes, it stays that way, too. I gave him a record last year (he has to fill in questions and I also and then you compare)

He has not returned it to me until today, he thinks it is difficult and he wants to do it, etc. But it just would not be soo his thing. Something totally disappoints me and when he is home he meitn he is so broken and then wants to relax and Playstation play.

Yesterday he went to football and wanted to come back to me, but then I said I need some time to study and we see each other then today. That was simply no problem for him. He said yes ok sweetheart everything clear, then much success and we write. Not a "oh my pity, I want to be with you, I'll miss you". It is simply accepted everything without problems, other friends would be super sad. At 15 o'clock he wrote me "I love you" and wished him a nice evening at 6 o'clock and at 10 o'clock he said how my evening was, wished me a good night and blabla. I thought in the 4 hours he would plan something for me, but then he just watched TV and played Playstation. I find it so disappointing for me and just cried and did not write to him this morning on his good morning message.

What do you all mean'?

For me that sounds like a normal harmonious relationship.

your claims are beyond this earth. Maybe you just look for help.

The way I read it out, your guy is really struggling. But even that is not enough for you. Because no matter what and how he does it. You still find something he could do differently / better. That's pretty unhealthy for a relationship.

Consider why. Maybe it's up to you that you're not happy. You are satisfied with (almost) nothing.

I'm a woman. I also need a lot of confirmation. But what you "demand" makes me almost speechless.

but you have already admitted that you seem to have a problem.

Why do not you talk to a psychologist about it?

Your partner can't convey feelings that you are missing. I think that your partner does an excessive amount of work, even too much on closer inspection. He jumps, does and does and you lean back and instead of rewarding that he makes himself a jiggle you criticize what he supposedly does not.

It is your job to work on you, to reflect on you and not task your partners to support the manifestations of the PS. A relationship consists of a healthy give and take and not because one gives only and the other just takes. It will not work like that. He is not responsible for you and your sensitivities (or only to a degree), but you.

I'm puzzled that he participates so. I could not handle this and can only advise you to work with a therapist on your perception.

You have found a great man. If he leaves you room, you've already pulled a good ticket. He trusts you, gives you time to learn… Why is that wrong in your eyes? Why does his world just have to revolve around you? 😯

That he does not want to fill in a book with questions is normal for a man. He does not see any special value in it, like you. You will not have had many serious relationships yet. Most men find written creativity difficult and seem meaningless to them. First right when it comes to questions that you could ask so much better. 😊 That might be a good workout for you. Because if you have problems with talking, then you should start exactly DA change something. 😉

You are still very young, it seems to me. I'm 28 and I also had to learn that the world is not about me. My husband does not need to give me flowers so I know he loves me. He listens to me when I have sorrow, comforts me when I'm not feeling well and tries to fulfill our dream of home with a lot of sweat and blood. We have two children and cuddle, cuddle and have sex better than at the beginning (are now 10 years together). The relationship is more intimate, stronger and has depth. We just have to look at each other to know what the other person needs right now. And believe me, flowers are not important to me. They wither and I throw them away. I'd rather have a massage, an evening in the restaurant, a cinema or a concert. Or just a walk in the moonlight. Just time for us.

I also do not like that you want him to be worried. That would be the last thing I want to do to my husband. He should be happy and carefree. He is already worried enough. And as you learn to talk about problems with your sweetheart, the worries come on their own. 😅

Your egoism stands in your way and will permanently destroy any of your relationships. 😳 I would really urge you not to be so stubborn on these little material things. Every joyous smile he gives you is worth gold. There will be moments in your relationship where you will want nothing more than that you are just happy. Throw everything away and go through life with light luggage. I know what I'm talking about 😅

However, as my partner he should always want to see me, if not then something is not right. He just does not care and he just does something else. In addition, he should make an effort and strive for me with little attentions.

He should. He should. He should. He should.

actually no. He should not do anything! He does not have to do anything. If you feel he is paying too little attention just because he does not write you "pity, but I want to see you," then it's definitely YOUR problem. Because EVERY normal person does something else when the partner can't.

I'll say it again: your claims are beyond this earth. You have a real problem. And instead of having your affectionate partner, who cares deeply about you, and you're not satisfied, disgraceful, and grateful for nothing, you should go into treatment and get yourself cured.

You regulate how a partnership works. That is not right. You think the Parter "should make an effort", "should always want to see you", "should make you happy with little attentions".

If you constantly ask for such things, your partner may eventually have had enough of you, because you are grateful for nothing, although he really gives his best.

You seem to have a problem with yourself. Not with the behavior of your partner.

you can't tell the people how to behave. You can't command HOW and WHAT to think. That's something you can't influence. And you will always have.

learn to handle it. If you can't do that, get help.

Excellent!