My friend, with whom I'm 1 and a half years old, stayed with me yesterday. I was so happy because I haven't seen him in a long time (they were both sick).
At breakfast he had written a little with his mother and at some point she said that instead of 10 p.m. He should be home at 6 p.m. Because of his dog. (He will be 18 tomorrow). I was really upset then. The whole time I just lay in my bed and watched Twitch. I wasn't abusive or anything.
In any case, he'll be home then, I went with him and I was allowed to stay with him because we were so early. Tried a few times to persuade him to come back and take the dog with me. But he didn't want to, was really sad… And he apologized to me the whole time. He then took me to the bus stop and we talked halfway normally again.
Well, when I got home my mother said what a bad friend I'm and that I should break up with him because I didn't deserve him. I wrote to him and he said that is the worst thing I could do.
What should I do now? I think my mother is right, but neither he nor I want to break up! I know that I'm a difficult friend.
He liked you so far and also today because! You are the way you are and you can work on whims.
Don't let yourself be fooled into anything and be and stay happy together, LG.
We can't really understand the reason for breaking up here.
If you feel bad about your reaction, you can go up to him and tell him this is bothering you and that you are sorry that you can be complicated at times. It certainly is, we all are.
It is only important if you have to think about something longer that you talk about the matter.
So I think everyone is disappointed when you haven't seen each other for a while and your friend then has to go home earlier. But on the one hand he apologized and I gather from your answer that everything was fine again. And now you're considering breaking up because your mom says he's too good for you and you're a bad friend. He doesn't seem to see it that way. So why should you ditch such a great relationship? I don't see any reason for this, even if your mother says so. You both didn't want to break up, so don't just do it because someone else is telling you to.
You have confirmation from your friend that he is absolutely not interested in what your mother is asking of you!
Enjoy the time with your friend, work on yourself to do him justice and everything else will then find itself.
You are still very young and everything can't be perfect at that age. Even adult couples can't do that!
All the best for you both.
I would listen to you and not your mother. If something like this has only happened once, don't be offended. Even if your mother only wants the best for you, you shouldn't be too influenced by her opinion. As far as I know, things don't always go well in a relationship, there are always "stones" on the way, but you have to sit down with your partner and try to master them yourself. In my opinion, you shouldn't break up (because of that), instead you should sit down with him and just talk about how you are feeling.
