My son is 20 has a vocational training and is now undressed and studies and works on the side full time on because he does not want to accept any help from me. He's my oldest and I'm really worried.
He has never had a girlfriend, a kiss or anything and has no friends like that either. His younger brother, 18, had his first girlfriend at the age of 17 and has friends with whom he is celebrating. I do not think it's bad that he does not have one but for him it's because he has no self-esteem.
Earlier, when he was still living with us, I always wanted him to go with his brother and his friends but he said that it's the friends of his brother and he has nothing to talk to and he only disturbs…
He was once mitgeganen had but before a drink and told me why he has no girlfriend.
He thinks of himself that he is nobody. He never buys anything, but always thinks of others. He would never buy expensive clothes but for his brother he spends several hundred euro. He also makes me gifts of several hundred euro, this year he bought me a Pandora bracelet for treasures I bought 300 euro… He paid himself all while I financed my little son Playstation, driver's license.
But that is not the case, he has 35,000 euro on his side, he is sympathetic, nice 193 is very muscular and earns as a student 1800 euro and without help. He would have to find a friend easily, I was wondering for example that his little brother has gotten one that is totally cold. Even now he does not buy anything, he lives voluntarily in a 25sqm apartment although he can easily afford something better.
I know that he is dissatisfied with his life, he told me, but now he lives alone and I make myself. Worried because he can't talk to anyone anymore.
You are worried, but the young man is currently focused on other things and sometimes it is not so bad when they focus on their own path (good graduation for example)
the right one is coming, let him… Your boys are very different. Do you want the best for him? Let him be like him. Girlfriend is not everything (he makes his way!)
Seems to be quite a moral apostle. He probably thinks in the future with a great job, he can afford a girlfriend. He also has a social phobia. So morbid shyness with complexes.
So my sex addiction helped me overcome my social phobia. If sex does not give him anything, only time will help. He has to give lectures during his studies. That helps a little.
And yes, his younger brother is supposed to train him like that with the girls. That would be the key. And tell him to take his Pandora bracelet and give it to his girlfriend just like normal sons do.
Even though it's hard, you can't help your son right now. He must develop his self-esteem for himself… Tell him that you are proud of hn, that you like him as he is, that he can always come home or talk to you… But he has to do the rest on his own.
All the best!
