My friend is not there for me?

On monday my little dog died for me the world has ended and it still goes. Since my boyfriend had not come to see me because of work, we had called on Monday evening because I just couldn't sleep and was crying.

The next day, Tuesday, I had another difficult day because I had to tell everyone in my family + work about it.

In the evening I asked my friend if we would be on the phone today and he said "I don't know yet, I booted my xbox" and then I said that I can't rely on him and that he is not there for me, that he is gambling is in front of me, even though I stood by him when his cat died.

He only wrote 1 hour later that he hadn't read that now. (HE WAS GAMING YES!) & Then I didn't answer him the next day because he just didn't understand. And now he's angry with me, too, and immediately said "then we won't see each other on the weekend either, I'm assuming".

What would you do or how would you react? I'm so hurt as he is now in front of me. In this difficult situation.

We have been together for 4 years.

I'm very sorry about that.

however, people set their priorities differently. What is bad for you can be easy for another.

how is it going with you?

Such behavior would make me think too. Actually, you should help your partner, especially in difficult situations. For me, work wouldn't be an excuse not to come by and be with your partner. In that case I would reconsider the relationship, so whether the partner gives me what I need.

True, sounds harsh but you're right!

Oh, how well I can understand you.

When a beloved animal has to go, the world collapses.

What should i say to your friend

It's just sad that he has so little understanding, especially now that you need him so badly…

I know why I hold on to the quote: Since I've known people, I've loved animals…

I wish you can process your grief over your beloved dog well, and I greet you from the bottom of my heart, Renate.

Everything was great the whole time, we didn't fight or anything. I didn't expect anything like that in our relationship either. He himself has animals where he should understand that. And if the partner needs you, this is what happens. He can always gamble.

That wasn't the case for him. Did you tell him you needed him

Wow. I don't think he's okay, I'll be honest with you.
I'm also very sorry, I wish you a lot of comfort.

Talk to him personally again and explain the situation to him in detail, as he probably doesn't quite understand it. It's often different on the cell phone. A loved family member has passed away, and you are just breaking someone to be by your side.

Thank you very much for your words and your understanding, Renate. Your quote is so true!

Yes I have. And he knows that too.

I no longer trust that others know something.

I prefer to address it directly.

I'll put myself in your friend's shoes… (everything is said as I would behave and think, etc. We have no times, we don't know how long he works, etc. So now I just have as good as possible in displaced)

Mo: Called you, he probably consoled you. Thing would be done for me.

Tue:

because I had to tell everyone in my family + work about it

Did you have to Mhm 🤔
You ask your friend if your phone call is called he knows 0 about what and then replies that he wants to gamble. Logically, you don't really look at your cell phone while gaming.

and then I said that I can't rely on him and that he is not there for me, that he is gambling in front of me

Wait what? He tells you that he is gambling and doesn't want to make a phone call today (he still doesn't know what about) and then he looks at his cell phone and has a message above that he won't help you in difficult situations?

He only wrote 1 hour later that he hadn't read that now.

Yes, because after the message "I don't know, I started my xbox", he put the cell phone away. You can be glad that you had to wait "only an hour".

then I didn't answer him the next day because he just didn't understand

He certainly understood, but as I said on Tuesday he didn't know what you wanted to talk to him about until your message.

and now he's mad at me too

Yes, it is… 💟

DD 🥰🥰🥰

I thank you! Yes i will try Maybe he'll come back to his senses and think about how he reacted. I'm just speechless by his reaction

Thank you. I thought I was the only one who thought that way.

Yes, I also thought: 3

That is your right too. It's just very complicated. If you say he's not there for you, but he disagrees, it's an argument that can't be resolved. Unfortunately, I'm finding out about that myself with a friend. Speak up, maybe one has understanding.

Yes, I've already mentioned that, but he said on Monday it would be bad because of work and yesterday gaming was more important.

What should he do in your opinion?

How true…

Of course he knew exactly why I wanted to call! It was a popular topic.

Oh no, I'm sorry for you! Hopefully you can sort this out quickly.

That he listens to me and hugs me, as you imagine it to be in a relationship and as I've always done for him

Of course he knew exactly why I wanted to call!

How do you know? Did he tell you did you ask him?

It was a popular topic.

It's not about the familiarity of a topic but how someone feels about the topic.
Subject his cat dies the end of the world because the animal was his companion.

A dog from the inner circle dies I wouldn't care because I didn't feel anything for this dog, he was just there but I had no closer connection.

Yes.

I was there for him too, it goes without saying that you stand by your partner when he's not doing well. And he prefers to gamble, although he knows what the topic and the matter is. And he knows exactly how important my dog was to me.

I was there for him too

Doesn't mean he has to be for you.

it goes without saying that you stand by your partner when he is not doing well

After the phone call on Monday he could have thought that the subject was settled and that there was enough support.

prefers gambling

If he did that he wouldn't have called you on Monday

although he knows what is the subject and the matter

From where? For him, this topic was already torn off on Di vlt.

I'm sorry, but you just don't get it because you don't even get the background.

Dear Marie, thank you for your rating. 💟💟

Ever thought about it that he thought, since you "had to" tell everyone and everything about it, that it all sounds like attention-seeking. Yes your dog died. But that doesn't mean that everything just has to revolve around you.

Thank you very much, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you too. If you want, you can upgrade us.

What's your problem? If you can't understand something like that. Should you just keep your mouth shut in certain situations. Like right here now. If you sit at work and look completely weeping and have hardly slept, then it is understandable that you have to say it. Generally, if you have a good relationship with your colleagues. & my family loved my dog too and shed bitter tears and they still do. I beg you. If you can't understand it, don't step in and make any claims.

Yes, and there you have your support. After all, your friend has a life of his own.

And then be less self-sacrificing with him next time. Then he only realizes that he should have taken care of you.