I find no connection among my work colleagues. I've been in the sheltered workshop for 5 months and have talked to others a few times. Since there are different areas there, I have met different. Only I usually feel like the third wheel on the car. I'm also stupidly looked at by superiors.
I just do not know how to go on. I'm the only one who has nobody there. I've also written in forum before that communication is difficult for me because I often do not know what to talk. I just remember the same questions after the initial topics have chewed through. The questions like: What did you do yesterday? What are you doing today? Are the only ones I can ask.
I'm so uncomfortable. I do not understand why everyone finds friends there, only I do not. There must be more calm, except me. I can do whatever I want, but nobody wants to have me with them. There's one who's always busy with his Nintendo. Maybe I should just buy a game console and forget everything around me.
Can imagine how uncomfortable the situation can be.
First of all, I would like to put pressure on you, that only you alone should be responsible for the communication. The others can say or start something, since they have equal rights.
On the other hand, it would be more relaxed for you if you could learn a certain indifference. Is this a main job there or an internship or something?
Then it happens that many people like the quiet ones more than those who keep on chattering and clapping, joining together, etc. It is a strength not to always want to swim with the stream and make it more mature, broadening the horizon. You are probably a very sensitive person, they are very personable and pleasant because they have a lot of empathy. Unfortunately, sometimes they are more of a disadvantage in such situations. Just try to talk to somebody, again and again. Not intrusive but staying on the ball day after day, eventually it will. And if not, then that's just the way it is, you do not always have to get along with everyone everywhere.
It's my main job there
OK. Then try to concentrate on your qualities in the job, do your job well and be always friendly and polite and try to look relaxed, do not search convulsively, then someday somebody will come.
Hallo Tanja!
As a more introverted person, I know that, but I see it as purely pragmatic: if it fits, then it fits - if not, then not! You can't cope with every human being equally well and not everyone is the talkative entertainer that much of society seems to expect from every human being.
I would take it easy: If you think too much, you end up developing not only self-pity but also serious self-doubt, and both can't and should not be. Maybe it will not work in this workshop - you have to pick up the people where they are, but this is not always possible due to the environment! Do not take this personally, think your part and live your life.
All the best!
Disabled people often react very uncertainly when they change something in their environment.
You're new, I would wait a while, even the last one realized that you belong now, then it may be all by itself.
Of course, if two sit next to each other and everyone stares at their game console, it does not lead to contacts. That has nothing to do with the actually beautiful term "play", that's more like "lonely machines".
