My daughter (13) wishes something new almost every week. New games for their Playstation console, new clothes, makeup the usual way. And I really fulfill her every conceivable wish.
I started saving for her driver's license and car this year. She desperately wants a Ford Mustang GT but possibly in pink. "As time goes by faster than expected.
I know it's a big mistake but I can't help it, she's my princess, my one and all.
How do you handle this in your parenting?
Children can work for big things (also from 13 years, babysitting, for example), a child of us has so erhübbt his trip to America (3 weeks).
What do you mean how proud she is to have paid for herself. Saved for years.
In addition, otherwise the money would not be there.
You're also going to work, you do not just get the things for free.
You can't show children the reality soon enough.
That is a matter of attitude. We're financially very good. And yet the children (3 pieces) are still not blown in the but.
It is our money and not theirs. The friends of our youngest always talk about how rich he is… Nothing, we have the money… He owns nothing at all.
There are 30 euro pocket money plus mobile phone a month. He graduated last year and is looking for an apprenticeship. He does 2 jobs and has to earn his money.
It's not that we give you something in between, or give, but everything in the context.
Extras, such as disco, cinema, McDoof, he has to pay from his money.
Flat screen TV, his Malle holiday, computer… Everything worked out, saved and bought.
The youngest is still living here, the others are not. He has to do his own laundry partly. When I wash and the machine is not full, I look at it, otherwise it has to do it alone. Should he be able to move out and not be financially supported, it goes without saying that we help out.
Likewise, if the larger have a high repair on the car. But everything is noted down and has to be paid off
What brings the children to pamper and pay them everything, they are then not viable and get along much worse with their money. Everything is self-evident and dad will be fine? No, that's not good and you educate only teenagers and young adults who can quickly fall into the debt trap.
Your job is to prepare your daughter for life…
Hmm, your only child? If not, I hope for the other children that they are not neglected.
It's always such a thing with the "golden kid". If you can't get the balance out of the golden child over time, someone will "demand" everything and believe that the world will be bent around you (keyword: Karen). Such a person does not have it easy later in life. Because the one will sooner or later always tease again, the stubborn can't enforce… Overall, the social life could be a little more difficult.
Especially since you got what you taught yourself then at some point to the next generation.
You write, you just can't do anything about it. OK.
My parents did not really wish me anything. Only that I had rarely wishes and if then rather modest wishes. I rather saved my pocket money for a few weeks to buy something "out of line".
My driver's license (plus 2 times theoretical exam / 2 times practical exam) plus car I paid then by the accumulated money that my grandmother had created for the birth. The money was especially planned to make it easier for the grandchildren to take their first steps into self-employment.
You ask how we handle it in parenting?
On the subject of "fulfilling wishes" it depends on what a desire it is, how expensive this desire is, whether there has been a great wish within the last few weeks. In addition, we take care that we do not get into rowing financially for the rest of the month. For more expensive wishes, our offspring must be patient until, for example, their birthday - or we offer a 50:50 deal. Part of us, part of the saved pocket money / grandma money / certificate money from the money box.
I want my offspring to grow up with money that is not infinitely available, that you have to work well to earn it, that you have to save for big wishes. The value of money just… In addition, the purchased item is treated more carefully.
