My stepfather's daughter is 12 (unfortunately still a child in her head) and she is extremely affectionate, no matter what I or my sister do, she always wants to be there
Even when I cuddle up with my girlfriend in bed, she lies down and hugs one of us and kisses him… Although we have already told her several times that we don't like her… If I want to have sex with my girlfriend, I have to have it extra mine sister write on whatsapp so that my sister calls her and keeps her busy, so that's really extreme
And my mother and her strange father do nothing and then tell us: she is still a child you have to deal with it…
how do you get rid of such people? EVEN NOW SHE IS IN MY ROOM PLAYING FIFA WITH MY GIRLFRIEND ON PS5 …
I understand this annoys you and it sure isn't easy to deal with. But try to enjoy it - in a few years you'll probably move out and then you won't see each other as regularly and often for a long time. Now it may just seem stupid and annoying to you, but family is something important and who knows, you might even miss them later.
Treat her to the fun and if you need more rest, you can do it more often. B. Going home to your girlfriend instead of you.
In your eyes she's annoying. But if you have an idol. One that you look up to. Wouldn't you also want to spend time with him / her every second.
I would say only do active times with her. That makes her happy… Where you play with her, cuddles and reads something out loud (if it's still so "small" then you can tell her now but that's enough, etc. So everyone gets their time and so on.)
So she doesn't look for another role model. Because then the next post will be from you. My little sister hangs out with stupid boys or girls smokes etc. (you know what I mean)
One day she will be grateful to you… That her big brother was there for her.
I'll try
So first of all… Something like that does not work, at any age… She needs a firm hand and a stricter upbringing…
You can try to talk to her calmly, to draw boundaries and you should maybe talk to your parents again that this behavior should be stopped…
Maybe she has traumatized / not coped with the separation and the new relationship of the father, or she is sad / disappointed / etc. About that and she is now looking for "protection" from her "new big brother"… There can be many reasons for this behavior… But it shouldn't go on like this… (Would maybe even professional help be good?)
PS: She is not "still a child in her head", she is generally still a child.
I read them off a lot here. Have you ever talked to her? So amicable, and as I said, she probably has few friends or something. Then you can help her there. At some point she is like someone wrote in puberty and then you don't see her for a long time (like now) just aggro and so on. But if you have a connection to her. You won't regret it… Because your parents don't seem to have any for her. So then you are the only one
Family FIRST
To be honest, it also seems that she is not satisfied that her father has a new one (just as I'm not satisfied that my mother has a new one) she often says to me "I love you; you are so great; you can always be there for me etc
But I'm in the mood for a new sister
I give my best.
There are several things that I notice.
For you and your older sister, your stepfather is the "enemy image no. 1" and only because you think he is taking your mother away from you.
Unfortunately, your little "stepsister" is of course inextricably linked to him, which seems to make her the next "enemy image No. 2".
Strangely enough, she's probably not so attached to you because you treat her badly, but because it seems to be the opposite. She obviously fell in love with you.
The difficulties to be overcome:
Are you so thoughtless that you can only think of yourself?
Obviously this man is doing your mother very good and makes her happy.
You don't have to close it in your heart, but for the sake of your mother you shouldn't deliberately torpedo her happiness.
The "little one" is just as much a victim as any of you when families split up, so at least be fair and don't blame your birth parents' problems.
You say she is 12, but still very childlike in her head. Precisely this should spur you older people to help you behave "more adult". Of course, that starts with sensible discussions.
So do you say in clear words that there are certain rules, such as maintaining your privacy. You don't have to go into detail, just clarify the fact.
Have you ever tried that?
My advice.
Try to be patient and understanding when it comes to the "little one".
As far as the stepfather is concerned, compromises should also be made there, because even without him there would be rules that you would have to adhere to, which you all seem to attribute to him, which is not true.
Very important! With each concession you thank your mother and make her a little happier. Isn't it worth giving up a little?
Your decision.
In any case, I wish you all a happy life.
Your privacy is important and you must insist on it.
A 12-year-old girl has absolutely no business in bed with a couple in love. Really now? Is that supposed to be a joke?
