My mother keeps yelling at me. I got glasses a few days ago and they make me wear them but I feel so uncomfortable with them. I said I could only wear it to school because I only need it for the blackboard. But she screams at me all the time that I have to wear her.
My mother always complains that I don't write a 1 and so, but when I write one she always says: "You do this for yourself, not for me."
My mother slept in the living room today and I came in to study on the computer. My little brother woke her up and she freaked out. I continued to study normally.
Suddenly my mother said that she would tell my father that he should throw away my PlayStation even though I only play on the weekend and if only 2-4 hours. I should get a new cell phone for Christmas. She said that I don't deserve this and that I won't get this. Then she said she would take my phone away from me in the evening and never give it to me again. She then added that I'm disabled and a stupid child. I tried to hide my tears
My mother plays a game like this on the computer all the time. Maybe she was angry because she wants to play, but isn't that more important than learning? She told her that it doesn't matter what happens to me.
I do not know what to do. So far I've only prayed and cried. I'm writing a homework tomorrow but I can't continue studying because my tears are flowing all the time and I have a headache. If I don't get a good grade, they will punish me.
I'm 12 and I go to high school.
I also feel very uncomfortable in my class and have no friends. I have very good and steadfast friends, but they all go to other schools.
This is a case of abuse (psychological warfare) and can't go on. The good news: you don't have to put up with any of this. How is your relationship with your father? Can you talk to him alone Maybe you can get him to have a serious talk with your mom.
If that doesn't work I would turn to befriended parents of schoolmates, other relatives, or maybe the class teacher (or trust teacher, if there's one). Nobody will blame you for getting help. As a 12 year old, nobody can do this alone.
Your mother will be even more upset at first, but she will probably see it later and be grateful in the end when she realizes that the situation could end in court.
You can go to the youth welfare office (or call or write an email) and say what's going on at home, how the whole thing is stressing you. They don't just intervene when they are hit.
Then you don't come to a children's home either, they talk to your parents and professionally help to improve the situation.
I also get on very badly with my father. He always protects my brother. He can hit me but I can't hit him and my parents don't say anything. Or whenever I come into the room he always makes funny comments like "the mental patient is back" or "she locks herself in her room".
First of all, I'm very sorry that you have to go through this. I know the feeling when you are constantly being put under pressure, even though you are always doing your best. My parents, especially my father, are the greatest perfectionists and always want me to be above average everywhere. I used to be like you. It hurt me a lot. It was so bad that I cried myself to sleep almost every day. I've started to wonder if I'm really as bad as my parents thought I was. And for a long time I thought that was right too. At some point I started to step out of my limits and did more than was actually necessary. Even then, my father snapped at me and said, you always do something completely unnecessary. "I didn't know what exactly was being asked of me now. That only made her angrier. Whenever I got a grade that was better When a 2 came home, I was no longer happy about it, but was always worried about what would be thrown at my head this time.It was so bad that I often got severe headaches and fevers and my friends got me even asked if everything was okay. Of course, I kept what happened at home a secret so as not to drag my parents into the mud. But honestly, that was probably the biggest mistake I could make. Me I think I would have been very happy if I had someone to talk to me about my problems, I've had people like that in my life, but I was the one who didn't dare to talk.
I'm now 16. I'm still very young, but a lot has changed inside me. It's not that I'm no longer interested in my parents' opinion, but I've learned how to deal with them without thinking badly about myself. The truth is, I'm not a bad person, this view was just forced on me. I'm pretty sure you do too.
Unfortunately, I can't give you any specific tips on how to counter this, because I didn't really do anything at the time. For me it happened somehow unconsciously. Maybe it's because I've gotten older (if only a few years) and have different views. What would have helped me to get out of this hole faster at the time were people to whom I could confide my problems without them looking down on me (good friends, teachers, specialists).
My answer now is definitely a bit on the moral side, but I wanted to share my experience with you. Somehow it was really good to put my thoughts into words haha.
All the best!
