A brief summary of my situation at the moment:
I have been separated from my son's mother for 5 years, meanwhile I still have a child with my current wife.
The problem topic (you can imagine) is my son who lives with my ex. He has been in 1st class for a good six months now and things are going badly. He just makes nonsense doesn't pay attention etc. When he comes to us every two weekends he behaves very well.
So that was that.
the other is, I found out that she (my ex) and her current husband crouch and play games 24/7 in front of the Playstation, meanwhile it is so bad that they have 2 TVs and 2 PlayStation in the living room so that they can play at the same time. My son is constantly being deported should deal alone or on the tablet. Now they have put a television in his room with… A Playstation, of course, so that they can have their rest. In my eyes it is totally sick and self-explanatory why he shows such bad behavior. I would very much like to bring him to me and somehow support him to get the curve. Where can I go there? What is my first expiry job?
I was at the youth welfare office apparently as long as she doesn't take drugs or doesn't hit the little one or so they can't do s…
I would get help from a lawyer, if what you write is true, it really is a pig.
And I would really step on the feet of the youth welfare office until you finally move.
Thank you, yes, the youth welfare office is really here with us in the region
That's why the lawyer, maybe you move.
So if all of this is actually true and you can prove it, I would really slap the table at the youth welfare office… Such a statement is unheard of…
the little one is so neglected… It can't go on like this… I would also talk to his teachers and get support.
If there's no other way, even go to court.
I would see the mother and the new partner as the first point of contact. If they do not show insight, relatives of the mother whom she trusts might be good helpers in your cause. And offer alternatives. If you demand that you take care of the child better, but you know no possibility, you will not reach. I would not turn on the office and the court until the unofficial possibilities have been exhausted. Swinging the big club right away only provokes defiance and defense.
Youth Office. Or talk to the teachers. If you put pressure on it, that definitely pulls. Or the teacher should report to the youth welfare office. She should then say there that she suspects that her pupil is a case according to §8a.
If you call the YES again, get connected to the responsible employee and say that your son has a case of §8a. Note the paragraph. Because the employees are more afraid of nothing than missing a case according to §8a. Then they might be in the newspaper a week later.
If you get brushed off, make a complaint to the director of the youth welfare office.
You can also talk to the mother about whether your son can't stay with you all the way.
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You don't have to hit the table with the youth welfare office. Talking is enough. And the employees there are obliged to follow up on information.
Did you read what the questioner wrote? He was already at the youth welfare office and he talked to them.
The first way is always the youth welfare office.
Request for mediation between you "old" parents.
Only if it does not work here, the parents' advice comes.
And then the answer.
It's about that for the child.
The Child Protection Association has helped me a lot, they always have an ear open and can also accompany if necessary.
