I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and we have a 13 month old daughter. Somehow I knew all along what was wrong, so this morning I took his cell phone (yes, I don't know you don't do that) and lo and behold, the dear gentleman takes drugs, by that I mean not only weed, but also lsd. I couldn't believe my eyes, only because of his one friend who only has trash on his mind. At that time he had already done that before we were together and briefly again during the relationship. I knew all along that he smokes, I think it's awful. NOT when there's a child, something like that doesn't work in my eyes, or how do you see it? That being said, his drugs aren't the only problem in the relationship. He doesn't go to work, it feels like he sits in front of the Playstation all day and hardly cares about his child at all. What kind of "man" is that? I just need someone to talk to or an opinion. I don't have anyone else, since I've been with him I don't have any friends anymore, which is probably a good thing because the "friends" weren't really friends back then, they just had nonsense on their minds. All of this is just a short version here, I don't want to write a novel about him. I would love to part with him, but can't…
And why can't you part
you shouldn't blame him all for it either. YOU have neglected your friends, YOU support him so that he can be what he is.
take your life into your own hands, you owe that to your daughter
Together through thick and thin.
As long as he doesn't get violent.
Basically you can consume drugs and still be a good father. Of course, you shouldn't use the drugs in front of the children.
it always depends on the handling. With lsd, some can handle it well and others less so. Basically, however, you can hardly become dependent on lsd at all.
grass can be psychologically addicting. If your partner doesn't go to work, one of the reasons for this could be grass consumption. Of course, if he doesn't take care of the family properly because he's always stoned, that won't work at all
I would move out / throw him out and take my child with me
I don't think that you can do without drugs that quickly, so maybe a little distance would help. You can tell him that it is irresponsible as a father and husband to do this. If they can't part, then he should move out first, but not to his friend who is probably inciting him. Make it clear to him what he has to lose. He should also look for a job, if not he can play babysitting. For this you might have heard of them set up a baby camera and see how he is doing, but tell him about the camera before it turns into an argument.
Yes, smoking weed just makes him stupid. Also believe that his PlayStation plays a very big role in that he is not working. He always says to me and to others that it is my fault that he does not work because I always lie in bed "so long". Hi there? I'm still on parental leave and look after our daughter 24/7. He is just still immature and has no plan for life…
The friends rejected each other after I had been with him for exactly 3 days, they didn't really know him so it has nothing to do with him, but they said that you have to see each other at least 3 times a week otherwise you are "out of the group". Just childish behavior for me. And I don't support him, I can't do more than say and he doesn't care what I say
Yes, many factors play a role here. You are of course not to blame for his laziness, but you must know that yourself.
it is not your job to take care of him now. After all, you have to take care of your child on your own if he doesn't.
If you really still love him, tell him clearly. I wouldn't say he has to stop playing or smoking weed completely. But I would make it very clear to him that he has to change his behavior towards you, your child and himself, because otherwise you will leave him.
you can also get him help in an emergency, for example if he doesn't want to move out voluntarily. This is not a problem
So in my opinion it doesn't matter if the father takes LSD from time to time and smoke weed. Simply because they are not particularly bad, and the child does not yet understand what is wrong with him. The father may even deter the child from drugs by consuming them.
But I don't think it's good that the father doesn't look after the child.
Of course you can do a lot more, but you don't want to
So you think that someone who is currently on a drug trip can still take responsibility for a different human life? What if the father is high and the child chokes? Suddenly becomes quiet? What to eat Is the diaper full? Has fallen out of the cradle? Sorry, but someone like that is not a father, but a child's welfare endangerment.
