Suppose you as a woman have a conflict with a friend you are both to blame.
Already at the meeting he throws you out prematurely, is dismissive and barely reacts. To the question: what is it? Or when will we meet again? Come a cool "do not know, ka"
Shortly after you get out, you ask for the reasons. You would take the time to tackle the points and work on them - after all, the person is important to you.
Only one thing comes to mind: "No. Report me back in a month or so." "Strictly stupid brain itself." and get blocked on Insta.
Later in the evening you ask again by SMS. You would find it extremely difficult for no clear reason. You do not want to annoy me. Only have certainty. After that, the person would get all the time in the world. Even if you think the breaks are mischievous. It's better to work on it.
His reaction? Ok per message, I extend the break by a month.
You then hooked whether the friendship was important to him at all, that he directly threatens to threaten with such closen questions.
He? Well, then I stop the friendship. If you think I do not care and I would give it a try. Rather, you do not seem to care what's wrong with me.
I then told him that was not the case. I just wanted to have clarity. I respect his actual decision. Just not the way he does it. He should get in touch when he is ready.
Then it came only one: good it applies from now 👍
Do not you find his behavior fully manipulative?
I do not know, he thinks he's not feeling well, but he does not seem to be scratched by all the streams he makes during the day. There he laughs a lot, is open to the people, gives them gaming tips, then follows the people on Insta with whom he got along well on Twitch etc.
Find the whole thing a bit strange: / We were always very good friends and have known each other for 5 years now.
I do not know if I would describe his behavior as manipulative. He is just very upset at the moment and his way of dealing with it is to go astray. You will not let it through your constant contact attempts, so he gets aggressive.
Why can't you just let it go and wait until it calms down a bit?
In his streams, he seems totally happy and anything but bad. Hence the doubt
And if he is happy? What does that change? Apart from that - just because someone looks happy, he is not necessarily. It is clear that he wants to work in his streams like that.
I do not find HIS behavior manipulative - but YOUR behavior is extremely intrusive, inconsiderate and annoying.
From that, I would have too much self-esteem to run after such a hiccup…
Not necessarily manipulative. And I think your style is not intrusive, you just want to know what's the matter and if he does not open his mouth and react so funny, you should Scheixxen on him
Why should he "work" as you want it?
As he deals with the situation and "clear" you will probably have to leave it to him.
Why do not you just let him off the hook and forget him?
You are the one who tries to manipulate.
Where do I manipulate? I only asked for the reasons. There's nothing manipulative about that.
Did I say that?
Strife always exists in a relationship. That is normal.
But one should not be so childish, to give his partner no opportunity to get along again.
With you,
Seek another one that will make you happier.
